how to over-come possesiveness?

[LordIT]

Off topic, but the nicer you are, the harder they fuck you. Thats what my relationships have taught me (1)

 

[Syavash]

Off topic, but the nicer you are, the harder they fuck you. Thats what my relationships have taught me (1)

You should learn to see people for what they are Can't be nice with everybody

EDIT: Now I'm wondering if you said it in the other sense :lol:

 

[LordIT]

You should learn to see people for what they are Can't be nice with everybody

EDIT: Now I'm wondering if you said it in the other sense :lol:

The equation holds true for all values of X.

 

[XxRebellionxX]

Off topic, but the nicer you are, the harder they fuck you. Thats what my relationships have taught me (1)

Advise?

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I don't know if it helps or not, but had the same case of over-possessiveness. Preferred isolation over connections, when I finally opened up after sometime I just lost interest and I was like what the hell went wrong? Still haven't figured my answer yet.

 

[LordIT]

This thread wins the vague thread of the year award. Almost every post has me going in circles, trying to decode whats been written.

Advise?

Off topic advice: Be a gentleman(loving, caring, decent, considerate), but get offended once in a while. Let them know you're not a doggie and let them know you're not dependent on their love.. But be very subtle about this. If they screw shit up, have them know that you did not approve the way shit was screwed up. Dont forgive everything from the get-go.

Between all of this, do not at any point in life, become an ass. A gentleman is what you are. A dignified gentleman who holds himself in high self esteem.

 

[Syavash]

This thread wins the vague thread of the year award. Almost every post has me going in circles, trying to decode whats been written.



Off topic advice: Be a gentleman(loving, caring, decent, considerate), but get offended once in a while. Let them know you're not a doggie and let them know you're not dependent on their love.. But be very subtle about this. If they screw shit up, have them know that you did not approve the way shit was screwed up. Dont forgive everything from the get-go.

Between all of this, do not at any point in life, become an ass. A gentleman is what you are. A dignified gentleman who holds himself in high self esteem.

Good advice. :|

 

[ikonox]

same here, have got company who 'do as i order'..
they are helpless.. they must because they can't risk losing my company

I don't want THAT type of control either ways~
I just want to become sole reason and let them NOT regret it!

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I don't know if it helps or not, but had the same case of over-possessiveness. Preferred isolation over connections, when I finally opened up after sometime I just lost interest and I was like what the hell went wrong? Still haven't figured my answer yet.

means I should stop worrying about it and just let go!

 

[ikonox]

This thread wins the vague thread of the year award. Almost every post has me going in circles, trying to decode whats been written.



Off topic advice: Be a gentleman(loving, caring, decent, considerate), but get offended once in a while. Let them know you're not a doggie and let them know you're not dependent on their love.. But be very subtle about this. If they screw shit up, have them know that you did not approve the way shit was screwed up. Dont forgive everything from the get-go.

Between all of this, do not at any point in life, become an ass. A gentleman is what you are. A dignified gentleman who holds himself in high self esteem.

very good!

 

[Ahmed11121]

Precisely :wink2:..
my girl should be as loyal and obeying as my servant...
sounds a bit traditional and awkward but i go on with this strategy...
i don't get caught up by their emotions even if they cry
they just can't lose me..

Isn't it totally wrong? Lack of freedom for her? No offense btw.

 

[Zeus MK]

I don't want THAT type of control either ways~
I just want to become sole reason and let them NOT regret it!

It's my strategy.. accomplished through years of experience and maturity ..
You can do what ever you like, u'l eventually get through and learn as time and girl(s) passes :wink2:

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Isn't it totally wrong? Lack of freedom for her? No offense btw.

Yes it's wrong.
But that's the way i live...
They have the freedom to choose.. either live with me or leave..
but they themselves choose to be with me.. and me only and they are fine this way so why should i care.

 

[Zeus MK]

The equation holds true for all values of X.

the other way.. :wink2:

like children,.. give them freedom they'l get on your head

 

[Ahmed11121]

^ Look we got a proud fella with some bachi's.
Plus if that's how you live, atleast don't suggest bad for others.
Children's are innocent, selfish. Girls too and you can control them but ATLEAST don't make them your dogs or SERVANTS.

It is very easy to make a girl fool, have night stands and do all the romance you want to. You can do whatever you want to because the girls are dumb enough to believe our white lies. But brother if you loved a girl sincerely you will know her value, her freedom, her heart. Everything to make her smile. You will realize how important woman are. As our Islam says that the woman is full of emotions and we should NOT play with those emotions by treating them as a servant.
Moreover if you have this quality of yours, Your son will have same and It creates a massive shit all over the globe, I feel sorry for guys who play, treat their girls like a shit. It doesn't take a hard hard job to understand and make them like they want to, They are already very much screwed up in our society a lot of lack of freedom and guys like you increase.

Anyway this is going offtopic. At OP, It'll really help if you understand about other party feelings, their wants and compare them with yours. This is how we build a strong relationship, Possessiveness is okay, But over dose of it is dangerous!

 

[Zeus MK]

^ Look we got a proud fella with some bachi's.
Plus if that's how you live, atleast don't suggest bad for others.
Children's are innocent, selfish. Girls too and you can control them but ATLEAST don't make them your dogs or SERVANTS.

It is very easy to make a girl fool, have night stands and do all the romance you want to. You can do whatever you want to because the girls are dumb enough to believe our white lies. But brother if you loved a girl sincerely you will know her value, her freedom, her heart. Everything to make her smile. You will realize how important woman are. As our Islam says that the woman is full of emotions and we should NOT play with those emotions by treating them as a servant.
Moreover if you have this quality of yours, Your son will have same and It creates a massive shit all over the globe, I feel sorry for guys who play, treat their girls like a shit. It doesn't take a hard hard job to understand and make them like they want to, They are already very much screwed up in our society a lot of lack of freedom and guys like you increase.

Anyway this is going offtopic. At OP, It'll really help if you understand about other party feelings, their wants and compare them with yours. This is how we build a strong relationship, Possessiveness is okay, But over dose of it is dangerous!

wo wo..
cool down

U got it wrong.

Some one said it right.. never judge any one by his internet appearance.. he may be not like u think he is.

Sure every body has the right for freedom and i already have posted.. that's what i do, u do as u like...

I don't keep them as dogs.. but as Obedient as a servant (it's a metaphor.. nothing like a real 'servant')..
I respect girls but i don't like disobedience and i don't like compromising on many other things
I never lie to them about any thing and i expect the same from them.. i hate lies

these are my simple rules.. if they break any rule.. if they ever lie or dis obey me then they are off my book.. off from my Phone, heart, mind and my world and then there cries are nothing to me but water... because when i am true i deserve the same

I don't prison them.. they have liberty to choose, but they choose me and my ways.

 

[Zeus MK]

@ OP.. not to worry, you are in a learning process.. all of the above ^ is bullshit any ways..
only the lost souls do this.. don't do that stuff.. don't fall for that girlfriend(s)/valentine stuff

if u really love here make her your wife

Just try to make yourself capable and marry her, respect her and she will respect you, make her your's

the true and good path.. satisfies your body and soul for good

Let me tell you the truth boy--

Possessiveness is relative to love , The more you love some one you become possessive about them...

Once i had it too but.. sigh leave my story.. my story is twisted really twisted just do as i said.. do it truly

 

[AsadAbrar]

wo wo..
cool down

U got it wrong.

Some one said it right.. never judge any one by his internet appearance.. he may be not like u think he is.

Sure every body has the right for freedom and i already have posted.. that's what i do, u do as u like...

I don't keep them as dogs.. but as Obedient as a servant (it's a metaphor.. nothing like a real 'servant')..
I respect girls but i don't like disobedience and i don't like compromising on many other things
I never lie to them about any thing and i expect the same from them.. i hate lies

these are my simple rules.. if they break any rule.. if they ever lie or dis obey me then they are off my book.. off from my Phone, heart, mind and my world and then there cries are nothing to me but water... because when i am true i deserve the same

I don't prison them.. they have liberty to choose, but they choose me and my ways.

It seems like you want to control your woman and you expect her to obey you. Is this true?


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[Zeus MK]

It seems like you want to control your woman and you expect her to obey you. Is this true?


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yes.. some thing like that

 

[AsadAbrar]

yes.. some thing like that

I meant you can do anything you like. You may not obey her or take care of her but you want to control her?


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[Zeus MK]

I meant you can do anything you like. You may not obey her or take care of her but you want to control her?


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Done with me..
Give the OP advice..

I gave him one true final advice to get over it or get married

 

[AsadAbrar]

Done with me..
Give the OP advice..

I gave him one true final advice to get over it or get married

I'm not giving advice. I'm just asking. :mushy:



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[Zeus MK]

I meant you can do anything you like. You may not obey her or take care of her but you want to control her?


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well here is your answer ..yes

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instead.. let me say very true:wink2: