Would you let your GF wear anything she wants? Your wife?

[Blastwave]

Apparently you know places where women wear miniskirts all the time? That too, openly in general public places?

no UFUS

That dont happen here

 

[FUEL2009]

[MENTION=24866]lifeinabucket[/MENTION]:You dont have a 'kinky' mind do you?

 

[Pseudonym]

No one should be in charge of someone else's wardrobe.

 

[lifeinabucket]

@lifeinabucket:You dont have a 'kinky' mind do you?

I have a lot of other interesting questions too.

Keep tuned

 

[Ali Man]

I have a lot of other interesting questions too.

Keep tuned

Well man, the way I see it is that when someone is with you, in this context, a girl, then whatever she does, says, wears, basically represents you. And now that's something one really needs to think about.

Going back to 2007, I met this girl, she was a good person, and I liked her. After a year or so, she was 'good enough' for me to tell my parents about her. So my family, after knowing her a bit, had good communication and relationship, so to say. And so I was in that point in life where I could easily say that I don't want anything more.

Well, she left for Canada for studies in I guess 2010, nothing that I could control, but I wasn't against it either. I just told her that whatever may happen when she goes there, she should just be herself, the way she is now, as for me, that's as good as it gets, and that she shouldn't change. She agreed, and actually made a joke about it, yeah.

Well folks, it's been a little over a year that I ended things, simply because she couldn't keep her word (it was a six year thing). Talking about short dresses, tight clothes, yea all that, and the bonus was talking disrespectfully. My family were astonished as I had told them that, but then they weren't completely surprised as they had good reasons for it.

Long story short, you really don't know people unless they're exposed to something, may be a stimulus of some sort, which brings me back to the first line in this comment: The only way for things to go a little smoother is if you're the 'guy' in the relationship, and not the opposite. Because only then, would a chick really know that what you may like and what you don't feel good about.

 

[USUF]

no UFUS

That dont happen here

Good. Because if it did I would have probably asked you for the place

 

[Jshak]

My gf can wear anything and wife no way

 

[xat95500]

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[LordIT]

Instead of fucking up someone's way of life - things that they've done since childhood and things that they are used to. Why would you not look for a girlfriend or wife that is already used to dressing up the way you want her to?

 

[Ottoman]

What power does a BF even have over his girl? I know for a fact that society doesn't give him any authority over her as it's an unrecognised societal relationship.

As far as I'm concerned, my GF can wear a birthday suit for all I care. I mean I wouldn't get blamed for her choice of clothing(or lack of it) now, would I?

 

[LordIT]

What power does a BF even have over his girl? I know for a fact that society doesn't give him any authority over her as it's an unrecognised societal relationship.

As far as I'm concerned, my GF can wear a birthday suit for all I care. I mean I wouldn't get blamed for her choice of clothing(or lack of it) now, would I?

(2) I'm going to give you a cup for saying something so oblivious to the reality.

 

[Ottoman]

(2) I'm going to give you a cup for saying something so oblivious to the reality.

Metaphorically speaking of course.

 

[Crow]

as long as you don't stick out like a sore thumb... there's a marked difference between how you're going to be perceived as if you wear jeans and tee in clifton, and jeans and tee in, idk, shikarpur.

there might be situations where it might be most appropriate for her to wear a hijab and i absolutely would expect hypothetical-wife to follow that custom if the situation arises. but again, and i wouldn't expect her to wear a hijab to like a beach in california. what you wear is an extension of where you are.

that said, i'm likely not going to marry a girl whom i have to teach how to dress, anyway.

 

[Necrokiller]

My gf can wear anything and wife no way

So your gf will never become your wife?

 

[lifeinabucket]

Well I want people to really understand what I'm getting at ...

It's how much of a right does a husband have on a wife's wardrobe. ( we can safely assume judging from most of the replies here, that GF is just a toy and he has no right over her wardrobe).

My question still remains :

1. If the girl is used to wearing sleeveless and open clothing, and the Bf has no issues before marriage and suddenly after marriage he expects her to cover herself for her sake and demands her to do it , is it obligatory for the girl to do that ? Or does she a have a geniune case?

2. The other question is, if suddenly at some point of marriage, a girl who has been observing Purdah for a while, decides to change and become more open, can the husband stop her from doing so ?


What right does a husband have over the Girl's Wardrobe.

No right , Every right , or Some sort of a right.

Let's try again to answer this question !

 

[Jshak]

Necro i will never make my gf my wife. She will destruct my life.

Jshak Mobile

 

[LoydGanks]

Necro i will never make my gf my wife. She will destruct my life.

Jshak Mobile

You are absolutely right. @Necro, sometimes there is a small minority of GFs that turn out to be dutiful wives, the rest are too demanding and since you are the one in Love with them, the power of the relationship lies with them.
[MENTION=24866]lifeinabucket[/MENTION] Underneath all our modesty, we are still savages, men and Muslims, so our mechanism is still the same as it was years ago. Men want to dominate and after marriage initial phase is over, a woman is expected to abide by her man's demands. But they have to be right kind of demands, not the insane ones. On a general note, it is a complex question but if seen from our society's perspective, you already know the answers.

 

[Deadly Shadow]

The husband/BF has no right in deciding the women's clothing. She is free to choose whatever she wants. All a husband/BF can do is express his concern on the matter. Nothing more.

Personally, I would date/marry a girl with enough common sense to dress appropriately for the occasion.

 

[haroonshaikh]

Islamically speaking, Man is the guardian of his wife and has every right to decide which clothing is appropriate and what not..In fact if a wife goes out of house wearing inadequate clothing, then on the judgement day, the husband would be held equally responsible for her wrong doings because it was his right to stop that.
However considering that males are given the title of protectors of family or wife. They are in no way superior to their wives.

 

[Wolfy]

wahh!! begherati... wo bhi dikha kay.

if you let ur g/f wear anything and you suddenly become a true muslim after getting married with her and ask her to hijab properly than (to me )you are an ASSHOLE!

btw a question: if you are married why do you have a g/f ( begum pouri nahi perti kiya? )