Lol you win.
This statement sums everything about ur personal beliefs.
Honestly, I am happy Sir Syed Ahmed Khan decided that people should learn English in 1887 when all the Indo-Pak subcontinent was in favor of boycotting the foreginers.
You consistently raise the point, that Pakistan should follow its own traditions and you don't want us to follow the West.
But you will be left behind if you don't follow how the West has progressed.
But clearly apko lagta hy we are very much competing in the upper echelon of countries as far as progression is concerned, so I can't change your mind.
This is not about me winning or loosing in a debate, this is about explaining to you mindset of men and their respective decisions in matters of relationships accordingly. You certainly have some qualities in life which are admirable but you put me in awkward moment with your Feminist approach to address my points. You need more positivist approach in this respect.
This is the best point you made:
"There is nothing wrong with following Western Norms if they are showing the right path."
I am progressive minded in life, I represent Pakistan's highly educated segment. I agree that Sir Syed was correct and people didn't notice the wisdom in his recommendation.
I do not hate WEST just because I am a Pakistani and am supposed to, I dislike some Western ideologies and traditions that are not compatible with Islamic values. I maintain a balance in my sense of progressivity and sense of religious norms. This is how people should be in Pakistan if they identify themselves as Muslims.
Islam = progress + modesty (balance)
I am coming across from both a realist and Islamic angle; A Muslim man should be concerned about modesty of his wife. He is responsible for raising his children as good Muslims and he cannot do that if his own wife will not adhere to Islamic beliefs and disrespect his concerns. A Muslim man should ideally marry a Muslim woman due to this reason alone. Boundaries should be defined in a marriage in accordance with mutual understanding of both Husband and Wife in a marriage. If you are interpreting this as a method to control a spouse, you have flawed understanding of these matters then.
Control is a good thing as long as it is implemented constructively; it is a bad thing if it is implemented abusively. Their is difference here and you need to understand this. Do not fall for negative stereotypes in social constructs and norms.
We exercise SELF-CONTROL for some reasons, in the same manner we try to enforce checks and balances in all matters concerning us. Our families are our part of our concerns and responsibilities.
You will have expectations from your wife, your wife will have expectations from you. Both can discuss this with each other and reach an understanding on this matter; this is how boundaries get defined. The crux of my suggestions.