Getting married inshAllah <3 , need wishes and kind advices :)
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"YE" jab sakool jaye ga tabhi to doosra bananay ka mauqa or time mile ga :bounceBasically
Do not let ANY ONE interfere in your married life, you and your wife's matters. I made this mistake in beginning and let my wife's family interfere, which made my life a living hell for almost a year. Now Shuker Allah ka. Every thing is fine and I am enjoying 3rd year of my married life. Just had to show my bad side to her family to keep them silent. So, be aware and never let any one interfere.
You should give her pocket money on monthly or weekly basis. Depends on you. Take her to shopping and dinner. Travel a lot. Take her to different places and go to long drives. Never delay in having first kid. When She seems sad, it's your duty to cheer her up. She is your responsibility, so always try to keep her happy. Never use bad words in front of her and never abuse her, specially in front of any one. Try to be reasonable when she seems angry or in bad mood. Always show patience when she seems angry, this will avoid use less fights.
Well others things you'll know by your self.
God bless you and your wife. Best of luck.
You should give her pocket money on monthly or weekly basis. Depends on you. Take her to shopping and dinner. Travel a lot. Take her to different places and go to long drives. Never delay in having first kid. When She seems sad, it's your duty to cheer her up. She is your responsibility, so always try to keep her happy. Never use bad words in front of her and never abuse her, specially in front of any one. Try to be reasonable when she seems angry or in bad mood. Always show patience when she seems angry, this will avoid use less fights.
Well others things you'll know by your self.
God bless you and your wife. Best of luck.
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Congrats, bro.
This is the beginning of a new chapter in your life so you would need to make some adjustments in your life-style.
Some advises, based on personal experience:-
Before marriage:
1. Have a reasonable wedding but do not spend lavishly. Try to save money for honeymoon. Bamian Banquet Hall at Thokar Naiz Baig is a cost-effective venue for wedding purposes.
2. No need to decorate bedroom lavishly (This is Hindu culture). Just get the furniture polished (if necessary), get a new carpet (if room floor is not tiled), use a beautiful bed sheet for the bed, place a few banquets of flowers, and use "room perfume" for pleasant fragrance.
After marriage:
1. You should get to know your wife better, with proper communication sessions. Encourage her to communicate with you openly and try to understand her personality.
2. Prioritize your wife over PC and gaming. A wife doesn't likes competition, not from the gadgets and PC even.
3. Take your wife to lunch or dinner to a good restaurant or hotel "once a month."
4. Plan a memorable honeymoon. Northern areas of Pakistan are recommended (e.g. PC of Muzaffarabad).
5. Watch a movie with your wife at home on weekly basis.
6. While you try to fulfill the needs of your wife, do not forget that marriage is about BALANCE. Your wife's needs are important but same is true for your needs. Encourage your wife to respect YOUR FAMILY as well since she would expect you to do the same for hers.
7. It is important to define boundaries for your relationship, ASAP. Boundaries determine the Don'ts of the relationship. In simple words, what you and your wife do not like.
8. Maintain privacy of your relationship. Outside interference is not healthy for a marriage.
In-Laws:
1. Have a good relationship with them but remain FORMAL. In-Laws are typically observant and sensitive.
2. You can have a conversation with your in-laws on Skype along with your wife on weekly basis.
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IMPORTANT: Aside from the advises that you receive here, you will learn a lot from personal experience. Most importantly, women are (not) same, period. Women have different personalities and preferences just like men. Your wife may like something that another woman won't, so don't try to generalize women. Try to understand your wife better (my advice # 1 under After Marriage heading). Good luck.
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Dear [MENTION=49676]Fkhan[/MENTION] a friendly advise for u from my belated father ( Allah unhen jannat naseeb kare...Ameen) as he was a writer he used to say something while we were young and coudnt understand but now being a father of 2 kids alhamdolillah i understand everybit of it. Its for u and for all.....
" Begum jo kuch bhi kahe usse bina soche samjhe maan lo bina bahes ke ..... BUT agar us ki kahi hui baat pe amal kar lia to bus tabahi wahin se shuru ho jayegi ;-).... in easy words get agreed upon her every word but do what ur mind and gutt feeling says.. " woh bhi khush tum bhi khush
" Begum jo kuch bhi kahe usse bina soche samjhe maan lo bina bahes ke ..... BUT agar us ki kahi hui baat pe amal kar lia to bus tabahi wahin se shuru ho jayegi ;-).... in easy words get agreed upon her every word but do what ur mind and gutt feeling says.
. " woh bhi khush tum bhi khush
Congrats bro, if you need a photographer for digital album woth quality of comparison to hakim sons at 1,/3 the cost in khi then let me know
First I'd like to congratulate you
I have only one piece of advice..
Don't get a child into your fam during the first year. Spend the first year enjoying yourselves and figuring each other out. If you see that you two can happily spend time with each other, make a baby.
Most people here get their first kid within the first 10 or 11 months and then there is no turning back.
I have only one piece of advice..
Don't get a child into your fam during the first year. Spend the first year enjoying yourselves and figuring each other out. If you see that you two can happily spend time with each other, make a baby.
Most people here get their first kid within the first 10 or 11 months and then there is no turning back.
Shadi se pehlay itni tension tou baad mei kiya karogay...
- JKCongrats and go with the flow.. The more you know about it from people the complicated things will get... So chillAx and get married...
All the best!
Dear @Fkhan a friendly advise for u from my belated father ( Allah unhen jannat naseeb kare...Ameen) as he was a writer he used to say something while we were young and coudnt understand but now being a father of 2 kids alhamdolillah i understand everybit of it. Its for u and for all.....
" Begum jo kuch bhi kahe usse bina soche samjhe maan lo bina bahes ke ..... BUT agar us ki kahi hui baat pe amal kar lia to bus tabahi wahin se shuru ho jayegi ;-).... in easy words get agreed upon her every word but do what ur mind and gutt feeling says.
Well quoted baijaan.. Dil ko lagi baat.. Dil aur biwi ko ullo bana ke rakho. All iz well .. :baby:
yup agreed.. listen everything. but do whatever you think,, yep agar baat ziada bigar jaye to Shopping pe le jao.. is se pahly kah apki shopping ho jaye:heat:
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yup.. keep away from these thing... do simple excercise. eat as much as you can.. these are fake and way of earning..
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yes dont tell them your old stories and secret.. like girls affair.. yaari dosti.. secret words.. etc. if you said to her.
then your bura time is start..(doubt start.. doubt doubt.. like. why you came so late.. where you going.. who is she talking to you..etc)
so mazlooomm husband ban ke raho. dont need to share your affair or any suspect that having her into doubt..
Well about ladt part don't do that ever ur selfrespect will die with that x friends or girls friends come to life again somehow and ur wife knows and their go ur trust
Tell her everything and live free
Truth will set u free
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