salam ,
my dear first of all , make sure about the following statement that ,
matter of RIZQ is only and only related to ALLAH's will ,
2 things are directly handled by ALLAH explicitly explained in QUran are RIZQ and FAME, its promised by ALLAH , that its pre dedceided about rizq how much and to whom will be given is decided by ALLAH, so dont worry ever about JOB ( rizq actually ) becasue job some times meaning to earn money NOT RIZQ.....there is huge difference between them ,
i will talk separately about the issues i am seeing in your case, as per my vision and experience decision will be ONLY yours, i can only guide you through ..
1,
Carrier VS JOB VS
Passion
Parents always suggests what's is best for you so dont ignore that , but , your interest counts a lot ,
if you are not inerested then convince your Father very very politely with reasons and explain to him WHY you are not interested and explain to him your Intention for future with benefits for studying (yes its hard part but can be easy if you convince the negative part of it ) along this explain the negative points of your decision along with your plans to over come those negatives as well ...... its very very critical and important and this is the only point where you and your father are having conflict ,
job does not depands on what you study , its depands on what ALLAH has decided for you and circumstances at that time , i have got MCS degree in 2001 at that time when i went for job i got 1200 RS pakistan for first job because 911 happened and it hits programming field very badly hence i ended up in a
banking carrier one of my friend refer me to Citi bank and my friend who referred me is still there in Paksitan and i got opportunity to go to UAE and i ended up there are thousands in Pakistan even better then me but ALLAh make my way to UAE.......!! ( think on this ) the main point is , JUST work HARD and PRAY and let ALLAh do the REST...
you CANNOT control what you get but you can control what you DO ....!
but
my passion is always being programmer so i am still into it , and during my banking tenor ( 7 years ) i never stopped programming at personal level , and now i am learning java and android to start making apps for it and may start a business for it ,
Result : STUDY DIDNT GUARANTEE YOUR DREAM JOB...!!! , WORK HARD and TRY & TRY AGAIN can WIN YOU what you want ( at the discretion of ALLAH ) but your HARD WORK will not end up in vain but it will be rewarded in some other ways ...
2,
Studies ABROAD ....!!
i can see that you are
much eager to just GO ABROAD , my dear , there is saying that Dur key dhol suhaney , its very very true, West is far more better then us , in many ways, but my dear they sees us as with very disgraceful vision .... beleive it or not this is very very True, ....when you will end up there you will get to know about this better ... any how , there is no harm in study abroad provided that you are very rich ....first thing, to afford the expensive study ...
i will talk separately about the issues i am seeing in your case, as per my vision and experience decision will be ONLY yours, i can only guide you through ..
1,
Carrier VS JOB VS
Passion
Parents always suggests what's is best for you so dont ignore that , but , your interest counts a lot ,
if you are not inerested then convince your Father very very politely with reasons and explain to him WHY you are not interested and explain to him your Intention for future with benefits for studying (yes its hard part but can be easy if you convince the negative part of it ) along this explain the negative points of your decision along with your plans to over come those negatives as well ...... its very very critical and important and this is the only point where you and your father are having conflict ,
job does not depands on what you study , its depands on what ALLAH has decided for you and circumstances at that time , i have got MCS degree in 2001 at that time when i went for job i got 1200 RS pakistan for first job because 911 happened and it hits programming field very badly hence i ended up in a
banking carrier one of my friend refer me to Citi bank and my friend who referred me is still there in Paksitan and i got opportunity to go to UAE and i ended up there are thousands in Pakistan even better then me but ALLAh make my way to UAE.......!! ( think on this ) the main point is , JUST work HARD and PRAY and let ALLAh do the REST...
you CANNOT control what you get but you can control what you DO ....!
but
my passion is always being programmer so i am still into it , and during my banking tenor ( 7 years ) i never stopped programming at personal level , and now i am learning java and android to start making apps for it and may start a business for it ,
Result : STUDY DIDNT GUARANTEE YOUR DREAM JOB...!!! , WORK HARD and TRY & TRY AGAIN can WIN YOU what you want ( at the discretion of ALLAH ) but your HARD WORK will not end up in vain but it will be rewarded in some other ways ...
NUT SHELL..
* carrier does not depands on your study but your choice of job ( you may be a banker but ended up as programmer ) and you may be a programmer but ended up as a banker ( my team leader at software house was a BCOM , and in bank i am Computer sceince graduate doing banking
i didnt not mean to discourage , the main point is , NEVER GIVE UP what you DO .and TRY AND TRY again to get SUCCESS ... as i am doing now a days i have started programming agin
2,
Studies ABROAD ....!!
just study abroad as i told earlier is not a guarantee to success , My team leader in software house was a diploma holder and bcom only but he was haviin excellent skills in programming so he was leading me while i got a Masters degree , what i want say is , Degree does count study does count but what really matters is what you can do in practical life , i got A grades in my masters but in programming feild i failed ...!!!
but nevertheless not died....!! i tried and tried again and not i am back on path ...!!
was i observe that you are
eager to just GO ABROAD , my dear , there is saying that Dur key dhol suhaney , its very very true, West is far more better then us , in many ways, but my dear they sees us as with very disgraceful vision .... beleive it or not this is very very True, ....when you will end up there you will get to know about this better ... any how , there is no harm in study abroad provided that you are very rich and your family is having a great financial support plus what ever you are investing there can you get the returns in same pace ..... Pakistan also have very good opportunities for studying you can try LUMS, FAST, CBM, SZABIST , GIK etc and too much variety of private universities as well , ...
NUT SHELL about studying abroad
1, Expensive
2, western life fun but very narrow space to practice your religion ISLAm.....( you will hardly able to listen to AZAn which is a bestow of ALLAH )
3, you may get better understanding of subject if you study aborad but it depands on your way of study same you can get in pakistan if you want
4, JOB still not a guarantee....
5, life is much more fast , workaholic , and mechanical you harldy find time for other and yourself even .....
6, Opportunities are more , and life is very easy ...technically
7, Home sickness
CAN YOU ELABORATE THE FOLLOWING STATEMENT..
. i don't find myself fitting in Pakistan's environment....im just not cut out for it....
what makes you think like this........??? if you can give me some convincing facts then i can a bit more about the topic ...
regards
nayyar
