How to deal with Boredom & being useless

[ikonox]

When i saw JAYZZY's post i thought maybe he was suggesting to the OP to have his pictures taken and upload them to PG, to make him 'Busy Busy Busy With No Time For Boredom'.

Hahaha its not just boredom yet.

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[NaNoW]

AoA

I know, its very pessimistic approach to life, but I feel so lonely and useless these days. I eat, sleep and do literally nothing. All the things I was good at or I enjoyed most are gone (no pc, no laptop, no educational achievements lately, no job, and zero social activity).

THE PROBLEM:

I feel soooo bored.
Maybe it is because after graduating from university my social life has been reduced to zero. (I am from another city and currently live alone at my flat with no particular friend's to visit).
Right now I am neither a student nor a professional. (Not a gamer as well)

I am also confused about my future and it constantly worries me. I want to get a job though.
I am a Ravian (2010-14 BA Hons in History) and I also did an LLB (2012-15) as after noon programme from Punjab University. I am planning to attempt for css exam next year but dont find myself motivated enough. I have had a bright background, like always standing first in class, gaining 90%+ in board exams etc which made me a topdog I guess. Now that I dont have anything, i feel lazy.
I feel nothing, a strange numbness has taken over me! I want enjoy something ANYTHING.

WHY DID I POST HERE?:

Purpose of posting here is get opinion from experiences fellowswho have gone through a lonely or useless phase of their life at any stage.

Is a gap between student life and professional life this harsh???
What to do?
How can I add some spice in my life?
Where to get motivation from? Or a will to live!

(Please dont crap the thread)
@mods guide me if any correction is needed.

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[dostinex]

Only one solution to your problem.
Tried and tested. (not really).
The solution is to

Spoiler: show

get married.

That will make nice fertilizer

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[Syavash]

You have a degree, so get off your ass, find a job and start working, and take things from there.

 

[Hilal]

Glad to know there are some smart people here. Great advice

 

[ikonox]

Glad to know there are some smart people here. Great advice

Pakgamers has never left me un-answered!
Its a better community.

Thats exactly why I have posted a personal issue here

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[ikonox]

Just an update!

I have joined Officers academy for css prep (starting tomorrow) in morning. Joined gym for afternoon session.

It ll get me a little busier; which may help with boredom but my feeling of being useless may still haunt me.

I ll report in again!

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[ashahzadpk]

You need to find a " Bachi ". How come you are intelligent and favourite child and no one attempted on u ? Go get some tiger. U wont get bore at all .


But joke aside. Go spend sometime in tableegh then. A sehroza or something. U will find some direction n focus

 

[ikonox]

You need to find a " Bachi ". How come you are intelligent and favourite child and no one attempted on u ? Go get some tiger. U wont get bore at all .


But joke aside. Go spend sometime in tableegh then. A sehroza or something. U will find some direction n focus

Did my time with girls!
I am done!
Rishta tay ho chuka!
Alhamdulillah


Come to think of it, it may be the reason: boys with early successful life may crave more appreciation/achievement through out their life!

:/
I mean, it can be that I expect too much of life

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[ashahzadpk]

Did my time with girls!
I am done!
Rishta tay ho chuka!
Alhamdulillah


Come to think of it, it may be the reason: boys with early successful life may crave more appreciation/achievement through out their life!

:/
I mean, it can be that I expect too much of life

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Good for u then. Just sharing my personal experience with u. I had almost the same successful journey in my life n i thought it will last forever ... then my seriesssss of failure started for some long years ... and this was the best time which crafted my incomplete personality into sober one. I ve found focus and wisdom in my failures. God forbid none of else may go through this but i think only success factor makes us useless sometime

 

[ikonox]

Good for u then. Just sharing my personal experience with u. I had almost the same successful journey in my life n i thought it will last forever ... then my seriesssss of failure started for some long years ... and this was the best time which crafted my incomplete personality into sober one. I ve found focus and wisdom in my failures. God forbid none of else may go through this but i think only success factor makes us useless sometime

Hmmm!!!
I ll try to be content, without stopping hardworking for more.

Thanku for your opinion


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[ikonox]

My life has been stuck at same place!
I am taking css classes in the morning and going to gym in afternoon! Still feeling lonely and useless!!! :/

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[Jester]

^ Things aren't gonna immediately get better just because you're not sitting at home anymore. Now that you've made a few changes to your lifestyle, you should make some to your mindset too.

Being more assertive is one of them. Your class and gym will probably have other people there. Start talking to them. It's more than likely they're on some form of social media network or another. As much as you may despise using these, you're gonna have to bite the bullet since this is where most of the social activity ends up taking place nowadays. It'll also give you a vague sense of other people's interests. Find some common ground and use that as a topic of conversation. Share stuff, start making plans, etc.

Other than that stop needlessly worrying and take a breather. Live in the moment. Also, get some exposure to the world, you seem to be lacking it.

 

[ikonox]

^ Things aren't gonna immediately get better just because you're not sitting at home anymore. Now that you've made a few changes to your lifestyle, you should make some to your mindset too.

Being more assertive is one of them. Your class and gym will probably have other people there. Start talking to them. It's more than likely they're on some form of social media network or another. As much as you may despise using these, you're gonna have to bite the bullet since this is where most of the social activity ends up taking place nowadays. It'll also give you a vague sense of other people's interests. Find some common ground and use that as a topic of conversation. Share stuff, start making plans, etc.

Other than that stop needlessly worrying and take a breather. Live in the moment. Also, get some exposure to the world, you seem to be lacking it.

Good one! (Well written reply)
Thanks.



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[Blastwave]

My life has been stuck at same place!
I am taking css classes in the morning and going to gym in afternoon! Still feeling lonely and useless!!! :/

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Well stop playing the victim.

 

[ikonox]

Well stop playing the victim.

I am not!!!
I am struggling to get better!
No male likes to be pathetic or even look like one.

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[ikonox]

[MENTION=39471]Blastwave[/MENTION] i am requesting to close this thread.
You made me angry at first but thanks for ultimate motivation!
Thank you fellows.

I am feeling motivated enough to stand up and defend myself.


It was really helpful

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[Blastwave]

[MENTION=39471]Blastwave[/MENTION] i am requesting to close this thread.
You made me angry at first but thanks for ultimate motivation!
Thank you fellows.

I am feeling motivated enough to stand up and defend myself.


It was really helpful

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Good

Step 2 is REGAINING POWER.

Get to it.

 

[r3aper]

Bro I just want to share this here,

Life's not fair. It never was, isn't now and won't ever be. Do not fall into the entitlement trap of feeling like you are a victim. You are not.

-Matthew Mcconaughey (Not some scholar, yes I know).

 

[dilawer]

^This. True words by the True Detective.